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Hi! 29 year old blonde, blue eyes, toned and fit, living the working girl life in the capital city.
Seeking a military man (have a type, can’t help it 😂) to breed me. Open to any situation that arises from it. Feel free to reach out for anything more!

My childhood best friend had a baby last year and went through postpartum depression. She is a SAHM and from the sounds of it, she hasn't had a single minute without SAHM responsibilities; even on her 1 day a week that her husband watches the kid, she ends up doing the majority of the watching of the kid and tons of housework anyway.
I invited her to fly to my state for a weekend so she could have some time away to catch her breath for just a couple of days. She was stoked. The trip was fully planned by the time she started mentioning coming in for much longer: a full week and two weekends (and bringing her baby), rather than just a weekend (without her baby). She said it'd give her kid a chance to meet her husband's family, and that it'd work out better for her lil family.
I told her it'd be much more expensive for both of us, that I'd have to take a week off work with very limited PTO, and that I wasn't comfortable with longer stays, but we ended up booking the flights for the longer time anyway. At the end of the trip, she let it slip that her husband has been talking about looking forward to coming home to no kid ever since I offered to fly her out. I overheard him talk about how great last weekend was being alone, and that it sucked because his week was basically the same since the kiddo is normally asleep when he got home every day anyway, and he was looking forward to more gaming later in the day.
So, what was supposed to be a very short breather for my friend ended up turning into an expensive paid staycation for him, while my friend had to stress about a fussy baby in a new state for over a full week. It's like he stole from me, and stole his wife's opportunity to have a break. I'm fuming.

TLDR: my boyfriend keeps occasionally snap chatting an old gf although I’ve asked him to stop. Should I end the relationship?
My(28f) boyfriend(32m) and I have been together for 4 years. A little over a year ago we moved back to a town he went to college in. He ran into a gal (31f single) and her dad at the grocery store that he dated for a short time till she broke it off while they were in college. Since then, whenever he sends out a picture on Snapchat (him doing a hobby, working, hanging with his daughter) he will send it to a handful of guy friends, me and her. If she responds they will have a conversation about it. If I respond to it, he nine times out of ten won’t reply. I’ve also never been in ANY of his snapchats in the 4 years we’ve dated but I’m in pictures on Facebook which he has her as a friend. I’ve addressed this problem in the past with this specific girl and one time it got very heated and he said he would delete her. He didn’t. They don’t talk about anything beyond just what friends would talk about, so I’m not sure if I should upset beyond the fact that he lied about deleting her off there? Is this breakup worthy? I love this guy and we have a great relationship. I think why I question it so much is because we never talk about marriage, and when I bring it up he changes the subject or just says maybe.

Hi all,
I am a bit stuck for choice with my Europe travel plans, which is a good problem to have! I am coming from Australia for 3 weeks start end of July and my travel partner has to leave much earlier, after 1 week due to urgent work matters happening in the US of which I will not get into here. Anyways, plans have changed and as she is not going to be around I no longer want to go to Paris, south of France and Ibiza. We will be hitting Amsterdam first and then Antwerp as we are going to Tomorrowland. After Tomorrowland she flies home out of Brussels where we both will be departing and my solo trip begins.
Problem is, I have no idea where I want to go as there is so many options and so little time, but I have a few places in mind. I was thinking of going to Norway as I have always wanted to visit the fjords and see Oslo but have head the people aren't very social and are quite reserved with travelers (how true is this?). I have been recommended Switzerland as a whole, Berlin and Copenhagen (Copenhagen is where I fly back home from so ill be there anyway. I now have found out one of my favorite music artists will be in Dublin for an awesome looking event (I will never have a chance to see her unless i travel Europe or USA) 2nd weekend of August which I bought a ticket too but I am not sold on going yet. I was told to only go to Ireland if you do road trips but I do not fare well alone on road trips and can get a bit lonely but I am keen to just go for the event.
With all that said, the plan I have in mind was to visit Brussels for a bit on the first of August and then go and see Bruges/ Ghent and then fly out a day or two before the event to Dublin for the event (the event is on the 5th of August). Then take a flight to Switzerland on the 6th and do a few days there and then fly/ train to Copenhagen for a few days and go home.
The other idea was to Fly to Norway on the first and then on the 4th fly to Dublin and then do the rest of my trip as per above. The other idea is to just not go to Dublin and forfeit the event and my ticket and do Norway, Switzerland, Copenhagen.
Any thoughts or idea on if any of this is doable or am i stretching myself to thin by trying to fit in too much, especially with Dublin for the music event? Any advice, or other places you may suggest?
PS: This is my second Euro trip. My first one was during uni where i went for 3 months. I did Munich, Krakow, Budapest, Vienna, Prague, Cesky Krumlov, Valencia, Barcelona, Lisbon, Porto, a bunch of smaller towns in Portugal, Nazare, Cintra, London, Rome, Florence, Venice, Tuscan wine region and then my trip was butchered for the rest of Italy due to Covid.

Heya,
Whoever is reading this I hope you have a wonderful day! I love connecting with my fellow humans and learning about what makes you you! What are your experiences? Highest highs, lowest lows? Let's talk about everything! :D
What I'm looking for
Somebody that also enjoys deep and abstract conversations about psychology, philosophy, futurism, music, or whatever excites your noggin! :)
Somebody that is ok with me gaming or even better, games themselves! :) This is really important to me, my ex didn't accept that about me. This does not mean that I neglect anything or anyone to play more, but it's something I'm passionate about! :)
I'm mainly looking for something that eventually becomes romantic in nature (if we really hit it off) but I'm also always looking for people that strictly want more friends. I'm okay with moving anywhere to close the LDR gap. :D
Talk to somebody else if
You will ghost me after a day, I'm not at all interested in chatting for a day and then never talking again, I want to talk to other people that also want something long-term. I prefer people from Europe due to time zones but could work out regardless but less chance of us meeting irl and/or being able to do things together. :)
About me
Extroverted, curious, talkative, happy, and a pretty low-maintenance person. ENTP for those into MBTI. I'm a student, graduating with my 2nd degree in 2024. I like being around animals and nature, learning new things, or making something cool in Photoshop or Figma! My hobbies are going to concerts/museums (mainly listen to metal but I will try anything!), gaming, cooking, and hanging out/gaming with my friends/family! :) My favorite topics to research are cryptids, conspiracies, cool animals, history, or linguistics so I can share a lot of cool facts about those topics! :D
Some conversation starters!
What is your most controversial opinion?
What's your favorite animal? I will give you a fun fact about said animal in return! :D
Favorite youtube essay/documentary/etc?
Biggest lifehack?
Most random thing to happen to you in your life
Any ghost/cryptid/etc encounters?
If you read everything so far thank you and have a cookie! 🍪

See i don't know where to start, i didn't even know where to ask but here i am. So basically me (17M) and my GF (17F) recently got into in a relationship about 3 months ago, before that we were really close friends, and we just thought we had the same feeling towards each other so we confessed to each other and here we are. I am not a emotionally connected guy but with her i feel like i cam trully express my self thats why i took the chance and confessed. But thats not why i am here for.
So basically her mom keeps checking her phone from time to time and she once found a picture of us hugging and stuff and she confronted her and told her not to ever meet me again. Somehow we still managed to meet a couple times even though she has a lot of restriction on her. And just like the past few meets we tried to meet again since it had been long since we met each other properly. So we decided that she would ask her mother if she can go to the movies with her best friend (also 17F) so she went on with the plan that i and the other girl's boyfriend would meet her at the theatre. But what we didn't know that her mother had been spying on us.
Well i don't know for sure but i saw a man acting all shady talking to someone through earphone while i was buying the tickets (the other had not arrived yet so i was all alone) and it looked like he was describing me, he was far away but i could hear some of it..."wearing green t shirt...yeah he is just standing there" i thought that was just me overthinking stuff. Then after thr movies we went to eat, there the other girls mom suddenly came, what more surprising is that the girl told me her mom was on her periods and was having cramps so she was in her room the whole day so she is no way coming here, well she did. And then when my gf reached home her mom confronted her saying "what do you think you are really smart, can i not have men look after you outside (which further solidified my suspicion on that shady man).
So today in the morning her mother called me and started threatning me that if i ever talked to her again she would not only tell this to my parents but take the matter to the police. She said that this could never work out as we both belong to different religion and she doesn't want me close to her daughter and then told me that if i ever tell my gf that her mom called me then also she will be taking actions against me.
I Don't know what to do should i tell my gf about this? ...And tell her not to confront her mother about this and say a word about this, and just keep it to ourself. Or can you guys help out with another plan...i didn't wanted to ask these things here but i am desperate for answers, i have been really disturbed since the morning.

well I don't mean to make a rant, but if the person said not to talk to them,I say it on here then,I'm not even upset because is the childish of the person to just hate me for nothing,I didn't do nothing for him to be so evil to,he probably don't have no respect for women at all the way he talks to me,I'm not upset be rejected but I'm upset for the dumb ass accusations,that's not true,hes lying I don't care,he took things way out of proportion and curse me out and call me a fucking bitch,in the first place I'm not the type to hurt nobody I know that for a fact,I'm so hurt right now for the way this man talk to me evil, and diss me I'm so sad but I'm not going to do nothing about it, but just cry,that's the only thing I'm going to do,I know I know I need to work on that, but it doesn't make me a fucking weirdo,is because he's lying,that's the accusations I'm talking about, that makes me sad, yes I admit to blowing up his dm a little bit because I was concerned I'm not going to do nothing to nobody but cry, because I know I'm a emotional person I know there is things I got to work on but being craze ain't one,I appreciate for the person to have a happy life,I even apologize to what I did, even though he diss me I forgive him, because that's the type of person that I'm,I will forgive easily and do whatever it is to make the person happy,

Contact JahCoin#5396 - Or join https://discord.gg/mw2lobbies if interested!
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How does it work? - All bots are run off PS5s, and are completely safe to play against. - They'll stand more or less still, moving periodically to avoid AFK timers. - They'll fire randomly, but never attack you. - It's completely safe for you. All the kills and stats you get in game will count as if it were a real match.
NORMAL / SHIPMENT BOT LOBBY PRICES: - 1 Bot Lobby - $7 - 3 Bot Lobbies - $20 - 5 Bot Lobbies - $29 - 10 Bot Lobbies - $57 - 20 Bot Lobbies - $105 - 50 Bot Lobbies - $240
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NUKE SERVICE - Get the calling card, skin, and emblem! - $85 - ( will need account details, can be done in ~a day )
PAYMENT METHODS - PAYPAL THROUGH FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND MOST MAJOR CRYPTOCURRENCIES ARE ACCEPTED
RULES / MUST READ - 1.If there is another player running around Do Not Kill! They are not a bot, bots will all have the same operator for easy identification! - 2.Never use any Player Killing kill-streaks! Replace your streaks for a UAV and Advanced UAV only! This is going to help speed up your kills and tracking of the players. Do not use counter UAVs, SAEs, Chopper Gunners, VTOLs, Ect. You may effect the lobby of the another person. - 3.Equip a grenade! Equip a Tactical Insert! Equip Scavenger Perk for ammunition. Equip Eagle Eye! When you have 20-25 kills (shortly after an advanced UAV is recommended so you don't accidently NUKE), place a Tactical Insert near the spawn to avoid running around and run 15 feet to kill yourself, and pull your standard grenade and hold in hand until it blows. - 4.Never use nuke! Nuke will end the game, and nuke is a high risk of being banned. You may be penalized one game if you call in a nuke.
Notice of how to play: Domination: Spawn and capture your nearest flag. Avoid B. Run to their spawn and murder! Capturing B will cause the game to end faster. This is at your own cost!
Discord: JahCoin#5396 - Discord with Vouches: https://discord.gg/mw2lobbies

Last week I found out the new guy at work is making three dollars more an hour than me and I’m trying him. Management is saying that he has more experience than me so that’s why he is getting that number. Yet all this guy does is complain and I literally have more responsibility to him. They gave me a promotion to without telling me what my raise was going to be at first, and have been telling me about the promotion for about a month getting me to do more work. Physically me and this guy are doing the same job right now and I’m getting promoted. He was hired with the idea that he would get promoted.
I just found out my raise last night and it’s still a dollar less than him. They said they are working on rectifying the situation and I should get another raise soon. That if at ever a point I feel that it’s not working for me I need to reach out. How long do I wait.?
I’m too fucking passive sometimes and said I understand and was trying to be grateful for what I got but I’m still mad. Like we are doing the same job and honestly I work harder than this guy. How do I get what I want without ripping down this coworker? Because I do want to rip him apart to get what I need, esp because he shared his wages with us. What do I say?
They pulled some bs not giving us raises at the start of the year. Since the start of our season this guy has made hundreds more than me and I’ve trained him. The company is bleeding people at the moment so I know they need me.

This is what I've gleaned from 31 years of living on this planet and trying my best. If I have been able to do it, I think anyone can, because I'm a human being just like you.
You can be happy. However, a state of permanent bliss does not seem to be possible. Life will always be somewhat uncomfortable, because that is the nature of life. You have biological functions to take care of, as well as survival functions which include things you may not like doing, like working or studying. There is always existential doubt about "what's even the point of all this crap?" Oftentimes it may not seem worth it.
It seems to me that you get what you give. I always interpreted this as being altruistic or something, and that can be part of it. But the deeper truth seems to be that you get out of life what you put into it. You get from life what you give to it. That is the deeper meaning. If you complain, whine, and remain closed or afraid, then live has nothing to offer to you. But if you put your soul into it, if you can open your heart and take some risks, then it seems it has infinite joy waiting for you.
I used to search for "the answer". Yeah, it sounds stupid when you write it out like that, but I really thought I just needed to figure something out. The truth is that there is no magic bullet. And nobody has a monopoly on truth. My search was productive, clearly, I did find some answers. But the answers were a lot more mysterious and humble than I had imagined. Life is still normal life for me. There's nothing remarkable about me at all. I still have problems, including anxiety and existential doubts, but now I deal with them differently. Plus, of course, all the problems that come with day-to-day living.
I keep coming back to what I learned in Alcoholics Anonymous. I am no longer active there, but I have remained sober for coming up on 10 years now. Alcoholics Anonymous was a bunch of wounded, "sick" people trying to make a better lives for themselves. But in a humble way. Not this "grab the bull by the horns" stuff. I'm all for adventure and making the most of it, but the thing that irks me about self-improvement is the lack of humility in it. We are fragile beings. We have limits. Embracing that, in my experience, seems to lead to deeper fulfillment.
I'm just a guy. A guy who had a lot of problems but learned a new way of living. A guy who made peace with his limits and fragilities. And, I guess ironically, a guy who decided to "take the bull by the horns". I decided to take some risks. Many risks. I followed my heart. I did things that could have fucked up my entire life, but I trusted enough to try them anyway, because deep down I didn't feel that I was entirely off-base with my feelings. But you never know. I did end up making an ass of myself a lot, and I'm sure I will continue to do so. But that's the price of admission. If you never want to look like a fool, by all means, but you will never be happy, either.
This is the message. If your life is not satisfactory, it is up to you to change it. It depends on you. There are no easy answers. You get what you give. If you say "yes" to life, if you approach life as an opportunity rather than as a curse, then you never know what life has waiting for you. But you've got to open yourself up to it. Even if it's scary - especially if it's scary. The fact that it scares you means there's substance behind it... this is the truth about life.
No, I'm not happy all the time. But I'm generally at peace, and when the going gets tough, I have motivation to keep going forward. And I must admit, there's some times, like today, where I'm just like "holy shit, what a ride".
I hope my story can help inspire others.

I am international 22 year old. Took time off since I graduated high school in 2020. Financial reasons and had some family health issues that needed me to stay back home.
I am looking into doing cs and was hoping my resume/portfolio as a self taught person (? Student idk) would be helpful to get a good internship at a reputable us/UK company. But I don't think that is possible as I don't have visa or work authorization. I probably could have switched from my student visa to work visa if I was in uni in usa. Also some countries would like u to have done ur bachelors from a US uni so there is that.
Companies here in my country don't pay very well plus the work culture here is not great at all among other things aka the political situation etc.
So what should I do.
Do I do a bachelors in usa/home country (pakistan) and then try going for internships/jobs. I feel like my only way out of my situation is going for higher ed and then hoping to use that to get my foot into professional environment.
I could get asylum using what is happening in my country to then get authorization to work and do an apprenticeship or internship. But that is an option I am not fully comfortable with since that means not going back to my home country and staying with my sister and being unemployed and not studying until I get the asylum situation processed (even if that happens).
I hate to waste my time and not do anything that will help me move forward. Feeling left behind in life. Doing a bachelors would mean getting out of school at age of 26 year old ..not ideal again...

Heya,
Whoever is reading this I hope you have a wonderful day! I love connecting with my fellow humans and learning about what makes you you! What are your experiences? Highest highs, lowest lows? Let's talk about everything! :D
What I'm looking for
Somebody that also enjoys deep and abstract conversations about psychology, philosophy, futurism, music, or whatever excites your noggin! :)
Somebody that is ok with me gaming or even better, games themselves! :) This is really important to me, my ex didn't accept that about me. This does not mean that I neglect anything or anyone to play more, but it's something I'm passionate about! :)
I'm mainly looking for something that eventually becomes romantic in nature (if we really hit it off) but I'm also always looking for people that strictly want more friends. I'm okay with moving anywhere to close the LDR gap. :D
Talk to somebody else if
You will ghost me after a day, I'm not at all interested in chatting for a day and then never talking again, I want to talk to other people that also want something long-term. I prefer people from Europe due to time zones but could work out regardless but less chance of us meeting irl and/or being able to do things together. :)
About me
Extroverted, curious, talkative, happy, and a pretty low-maintenance person. I'm a student, graduating with my 2nd degree in 2024. I like being around animals and nature, learning new things, or making something cool in Photoshop or Figma! My hobbies are going to concerts/museums (mainly listen to metal but I will try anything!), gaming, cooking, and hanging out/gaming with my friends/family! :) My favorite topics to research are cryptids, conspiracies, cool animals, history, or linguistics so I can share a lot of cool facts about those topics! :D
Some conversation starters!
What is your most controversial opinion?
What's your favorite animal? I will give you a fun fact about said animal in return! :D
Favorite youtube essay/documentary/etc?
Biggest lifehack?
Most random thing to happen to you in your life
Any ghost/cryptid/etc encounters?
If you read everything so far thank you and have a cookie! 🍪

Contact JahCoin#5396 - Or join https://discord.gg/mw2lobbies if interested!
What can this be used for? - Boosting your mw2 stats - Levelling up any guns - Maxing out all your weapons easily - No grind needed for your camos easily obtian gold, platinum, Polyatomic and Orion with just a few games
How does it work? - All bots are run off PS5s, and are completely safe to play against. - They'll stand more or less still, moving periodically to avoid AFK timers. - They'll fire randomly, but never attack you. - It's completely safe for you. All the kills and stats you get in game will count as if it were a real match.
NORMAL / SHIPMENT BOT LOBBY PRICES: - 1 Bot Lobby - $7 - 3 Bot Lobbies - $20 - 5 Bot Lobbies - $29 - 10 Bot Lobbies - $57 - 20 Bot Lobbies - $105 - 50 Bot Lobbies - $240
LONGSHOT BOT LOBBY PRICES: - 1 Longshot Bot Lobby - $11 - 3 Longshot Bot Lobbies - $30 - 5 Longshot Bot Lobbies - $47 - 10 Longshot Bot Lobbies - $87 - 20 Longshot Bot Lobbies - $165
NUKE SERVICE - Get the calling card, skin, and emblem! - $85 - ( will need account details, can be done in ~a day )
PAYMENT METHODS - PAYPAL THROUGH FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND MOST MAJOR CRYPTOCURRENCIES ARE ACCEPTED
RULES / MUST READ - 1.If there is another player running around Do Not Kill! They are not a bot, bots will all have the same operator for easy identification! - 2.Never use any Player Killing kill-streaks! Replace your streaks for a UAV and Advanced UAV only! This is going to help speed up your kills and tracking of the players. Do not use counter UAVs, SAEs, Chopper Gunners, VTOLs, Ect. You may effect the lobby of the another person. - 3.Equip a grenade! Equip a Tactical Insert! Equip Scavenger Perk for ammunition. Equip Eagle Eye! When you have 20-25 kills (shortly after an advanced UAV is recommended so you don't accidently NUKE), place a Tactical Insert near the spawn to avoid running around and run 15 feet to kill yourself, and pull your standard grenade and hold in hand until it blows. - 4.Never use nuke! Nuke will end the game, and nuke is a high risk of being banned. You may be penalized one game if you call in a nuke.
Notice of how to play: Domination: Spawn and capture your nearest flag. Avoid B. Run to their spawn and murder! Capturing B will cause the game to end faster. This is at your own cost!
Discord: JahCoin#5396 - Discord with Vouches: https://discord.gg/mw2lobbies

Hi all! I had a long talk with my husband last night where he approached me to tell me that he is ready to start focusing on his weight and heart health and asking me to help and support him. I think I sort of "caused" this, because a couple of weeks ago I had a heart to heart with him asking him to please start working on his health. I want to be clear right now (and I was clear with him then) that I don't care at all about his weight when it comes to my attraction to him. That man was gorgeous to me when he was thin when I met him and he's just as gorgeous to me now, and has been gorgeous every weight in between. I love him with with my whole heart and I'm still crazy attracted to him. That's not the issue. I am very concerned about his health though, as we are getting older (we're in our 40's) and he is has started struggling with getting very out of breath, heart racing, and extremely tired with doing things like mowing the grass in our small yard with our self propelled mower. I have mowed that yard plenty of times, including when I was heavier myself, and it's just not that taxing. So it scares me, because it would absolutely devastate me to lose him. I brought it up to him a couple of weeks ago after "the mower incident" but I haven't mentioned it since because I didn't want to be that partner that rides someone about their weight. Last night he brought it up to me and told me he has been thinking about it for a long time, since before I brought it up to him, and he feels ready to make changes and asking me for my help.
I'm a regular on this sub and I lost about 40 lbs and have been maintaining it for about 6 months now. So you would think this would be easy, right?
The rub is, he doesn't want to count calories, which is why I have come to you fine people. I lost the weight with a pretty strict CICO mindset - eat anything you want as long as it fits your calories for the day. Along the way I became a volume eater who focuses on mostly whole foods because that's what helps me get full and feel nourished, but I still come at it from a "weigh and log everything" mindset. We usually only eat dinner together, and I would say that our dinners are pretty good as far as being healthful because I make sure they are for myself, but he probably needs to work on his portion sizes. But he also needs to work on lunches and snacks (he's a big snacker, but like me he isn't big into breakfast.)
I know that a person absolutely can lose weight without weighing and logging. I just don't know how. Lol Like, if just making some healthy swaps was enough, I would have thought he would have lost weight when I took over dinner, and started keeping healthy snacks in the house. Clearly we need more.
My plan so far is to encourage him to give up or at least limit soda. He's kind of a fiend for soda and that can't be helping. I am also going to offer to go on walks and workout with him. I know that likely won't do a ton for the excess weight, but my main concern is his cardiovascular health, so improving that with exercise is a biggie.
What ideas do you have?

Late yesterday evening, I actually got a reply from my godmother (see previous post for context).
Koevis, I don't want to lose you. I am your godmother. I will do my very best not to hurt you again. I just came home from grandmother, she's a bit better but still confused. There's always someone with her. I'll call you later, I'm going to sleep now. We stay together!
I've been thinking, and it doesn't sit well with me for multiple reasons:

• she never says she will actually respect my boundary (which is don't talk about my parents/childhood)
  
• calling what she did just "hurting me" seems kind of... dismissive? It's so much worse than just hurting. This distinction might be clearer in Dutch, I don't think it fully translates (ik zal mijn uiterste best doen je niet meer te kwetsen). I might be imagining this though.
  
• it feels like she's trying to distract from the issue by bringing up my grandmother's health issues, that has nothing to do with it.
  
• she ignores my statement that I need time right now by saying she'll call me.
  
• there's no apology, not even a fake one.
  
• what the hell does "we stay together!" mean here?
  

She used to be a nun, actively going to do missionary work, and I almost feel like she's trying to do the same to me. Bring the lost sheep back into the flock.
I answered:
can you promise me you won't bring up my parents and childhood anymore? Either way, I need time right now. I'll let you know when I'm available again.
Both for the court and for myself, if she respects my need for time right now, and promises me she won't ignore my boundaries again, I'll give her one last chance. Until she does it again, then we're through.
I wish she would just listen to me. It's really not such a difficult boundary, just don't bring up the traumatic things and don't call me a spoiled liar to my face just because you haven't actively noticed any abuse. That's all. Instead she actively puts herself right in the middle and tells me nothing bad ever happened and my parents are saints while saying she's neutral and wants to stay out of it.
Am I right in what bothers me about that text, or am I overanalysing?

TW// suicide & death mention
Now I know how bad the title sounds, but please hear me out.
Me (18 f) and my three older siblings were raised by a single mother, who made sure we were always happy no matter how short the money was or what life threw at us. I’ve always been incredibly grateful for her and our relationship was really close, to the point where I considered her my best friend. Sad when your bff is your mom ik.
About 7-8 years ago she got diagnosed with a terminal lung disease, which was caused by smoking. The first few years her health didn’t really change much and she was still very active (she loved to go out and has always hated being confined to a house). Around the same time she met my now stepdad, which I felt really took a toll on my relationship with my mom as it was a big change for me.
The last few years her health began deteriorating drastically, due to her still smoking, and she had multiple hospital stays a year, then a month. Now she’s pretty much confined to her bed and uses an electric wheelchair to get around. I’ve taken over most of the housework as my stepdad and siblings all work or don’t live with us. I’m also her registered caretaker, help her shower, change her or help her to the toilet, just to name a few.
These things aren’t my issue though. The real problem is her attitude. My moms always had a bit of a temper but over the years it just got worse. I barely recognise the woman I loved so dearly. Now she’s just bitter and mean. I try to be sympathetic to her situation, imagining what it must be for her to have her literal nightmare come true and be dependent on everyone around you. However, I still don’t think it gives you an excuse to become this antagonistic.
Just some few examples:
-Everything has to go according to her time schedule, meaning I cook for the family when SHES hungry, then make myself something different afterwards because I don’t eat most of what she wants to eat.
-picking fights over the most trivial things with everyone. told my brother he was “good for nothing and that she must’ve failed as a mother” when he wasn’t able to repair the wifi when it was literally shut down by the company.
-I had a suicide attempt two years ago and have been struggling but my mom says my “bad mood” makes her stressed out and thus she gets short of breath.
-Really anything she doesn’t like she’ll say: “You need to stop (…), because it’s making me even more sick”
-Then she wanted a dog, which I was very against as there wouldn’t be a way to properly train or entertain a puppy. She got her wish anyways and dumped pretty much all the responsibilities on me.
-Then she wanted to renovate our house, which just means she’ll decide and we do the work when and how she wants it done.
-Refuses to wear her hearing aids and complaining i don’t talk loud enough.
-Making me responsible for reminding her to do exercise and when I failed to do so saying: “You must not want me to get better”
The last one really infuriates me because of course I wish her health was better, however, the only way to improve it would be trough a lung transplant which she won’t ever be approved of if she still smokes. Apparently she’s ready to literally die on this hill of cigarettes.
I recently dropped out of high school to support her more during the mornings as that’s where she’s alone mostly. I currently stay up late at night till around 3 or 4 am as she’ll often call me for help at night to let my stepdad sleep. I then wake up 5 hours later to take over again. Mind you i’m doing all this for free while she gets government support specifically meant to be the salary of the caretaker’s.
I know it’s awful but I sometimes think about her death and how much easier it would be on everyone. Don’t get me wrong I don’t want her to die, but I’ve accepted and grieved that it will eventually happen years ago. She’ll never see me marry, have kids or even a job and of course i’m sad about that but I’d rather it happen now than in a years time. I’ve mentioned how i stressed I feel but she refuses to get help from anyone that isn’t family, the only exception to this being a maid who comes once a week to clean the downstairs.
I’m really at my limit here and don’t know how long I can continue doing this without breaking down on myself. Especially since I already gave up so much of my teens for her. I don’t really have much contact outside the household and didn’t attend school even when I was still enrolled. I feel like everyday my resentment of her grows, alongside the deep disgust I feel for myself for even thinking these things.
I don’t honestly want her to die, just this ugly, evil version of herself. I really just want my mom back, so AITA?

To be honest I thought It would be helpful for myself and for others to share my story of being in a long distance relationship with my gf having BPD over the past 6months.
We met through Twitter and I was in a “self improvement mindset” for the past year or so she was funny and I was never going to dm her or anything since I had no interest long story short she initiated and we became friends, through being friends I realised she was “wife material” genuinely even after breaking up sure she has her flaws but she’s genuinely a very good person and very open about how she’s feeling (ofc it took some time to get to that stage) she values truth and honestly a lot.
We were basically together nonstop playing games or video calling/voice calling and sleep calling outside of when I had work. Essentially we spent 4straight months together damn near 24hr days, it was great throughout these months she didn’t split on me we did argue but it was always for the same root cause which was texting and her just misinterpreting my texts and it would be cleared up after and basically that was the idealisation/obsession phase but naturally it didn’t last.
So next came the splitting and she said she hated me in a pretty like open and respectful way she was being honest and vulnerable with me but we were texting so naturally I didn’t handle it the best and things were misinterpreted but the next 2-3 weeks the idealisation stopped I wouldn’t call it devaluation but I guess it probably was except she didn’t devalue me or say anything truly hurtful the main difference was no bombardment of compliments and she was more irritable nothing intolerable though.
So now comes the reason for our breakup she basically met another guy at a new job she got since I got fired from my job when I met her (just a part time one anyway) as I was staying up late and late to work as a result then when I finally started looking for a job so did she. So she made a friend at work and fast forward he asked for her insta and they started to hang out I knew this was going on despite her not communicating this to me. What she said was that she didn’t feel like doing anything and wanted space so I knew it means space to do things with someone else since I’m all she had and a couple long distance friends.
So surprise surprise she thought they could just be friends but he obviously just wanted to have sex and when she found that out she was incredibly sad since she finally had a friend she could do stuff with. This leads to her respectful and honest reasoning for us breaking up she confessed what they did together and how they drank (which she has never done before) and she said 2 reasons for breaking up the first was essentially she feels like she values drugs over out relationship and if another guy came along that she had stuff in common with and asked to do drugs she wouldn’t be able to turn it down and since some drugs like X can make you feel amazing she would be susceptible to being taken advantage of and it wouldn’t be fair on me. Her final reason was that when spending time with that guy she realised she isn’t built for long distance relationships and would much prefer being together physically and the distance is too tough.
The break up was very peaceful and respectful and just handled correctly, I said I didn’t want to break up but will respect her decision things like long distance are impossible if you aren’t on the same page. To be honest it was a huge weight off my shoulders and I didn’t actually feel saddened by our separation but relieved I’m definitely a weird case I’m never saddened by separation which is probably why I even got with her in the first place knowing she had bpd and we are long distance,I have deep empathy and respect for the large majority who have dealt with people on the severe end of the spectrum wishing everyone the best and a stable recovery.
Before the relationship I had so many things I wanted to do so now I’m going to do them all looking forward to living life again but definitely won’t make the same decisions when it comes to relationships I don’t regret anything it happened for a reason and was a learniNg experience for myself it’s possible things would have been different if not for the distance but yea good luck to everyone.

I need some unbiased opinions..
I (24F) currently work at a dental office as an Office Manager. It is part of a large corporation which has about 97 locations. I have only been in my position for 4 months but have double our production. I work 9 hours days M-Th salaried at 50K annually.
I also work PRN doing billing for my previous full time employer. This employer reached out to me and offered me an HR Management job. She offered to match my pay at $50k and has no wiggle room to go any higher. It is M-F 8 hour shifts. I have always dreamed of an HR position. That has been my goal but unfortunately I don’t have the schooling background. This employer told me that she wanted me back in the door and thought I would be a great fit. Since this is something I have always wanted to do and it opens so many more doors for me, I accepted.
I gave my notice and a few days later I received a counter offer. My current employer offered me a $65K salary. My job would remain the same as office manager but they wanted to retain me.
I am at a loss of what to do. That is such a big increase in pay and I know the other place would not be able to match that. But like I said, HR is what I have dreamed of. I know money isn’t everything and I would burn the bridge entirely if I didn’t go forward with the HR job. I would also be giving up Fridays off by taking the HR position.
Side note: My husband and I are trying to pay off debt so that amount of money could be very helpful for that.
So I would like to unbiased opinions on what to do because I am very conflicted. I only have two days to decide. My husband tells me that it is ultimately my choice and he supports me no matter what.
What would you do if you were in my situation?

I just had a pretty nasty wake up call by stepping on a scale for the first time in months.
I've had body image issues for as long as I can remember- I remember being devastated to step on the scale and see I weighed 10st. Looking back I was a size 10-12 (UK) when I first started thinking I was fat. What I wouldn't give to be that size again.
Well, like most people, lockdown caused some significant weight gain. I began to notice fat rolls where I'd never had them before; I'd turn around and feel a huge roll on my side, or I'd yawn and feel a wad of double chin that was brand new, etc. Clothes I'd owned for years suddenly didn't fit any more. And no matter what I've tried since then- diets, restrictions, exercises, vitamins, weight loss apps, fat burning creams- I just keep piling on the pounds.
Today, I went for a run for the first time in a while- out of all the exercises, running is my downfall and always has been. I barely made it 2 minutes before I was gasping like a fish out of water and an hour later I'm still coughing. I got back inside, stripped down and stood on a scale.
I'm currently 14st 7lbs.
I'm officially at my heaviest weight. I have size 16 clothes that are getting tight on me. Sometimes sizes XXL are too snug. It's getting me down so badly. Please, what can I do to shed some of this weight? It's making me feel truly disgusting. I can't afford paid programs like WW or those apps that keep diet & exercise plans behind a paywall, and I can't currently get myself to a gym (no drivers license yet), but are there any exercises or free apps or diet plans that have worked for you guys? I'll try anything at this point.

HERE are some pictures and videos taken by me or others over the course of the last year and a half.
My local university was conducting a medical study on the affects of different diets on weight gain. I signed up and was chosen and the potential money to be made was very appealing. The first two months of the study involved simply eating at a calorie surplus on a premade diet to see how it affected my body’s weight gain. After taking measurements after these initial two months, if my body’s measurements represented any kind of high percentile outlier, I would be selected to potentially continue for the entire 1.5 year study focused on a particular area of the body. Of all of the participants, my abdominal girth was at the highest percentile ratio of girth compared to weight/height, so they selected me to participate focusing on abdominal weight gain and to see how severe it could be.
They paid me about $3,000 a month and had all of my food paid for as I followed a specific premade diet plan that changed every 2 or 3 months to study the affects these specific diets had. Some were dairy heavy, carb heavy, specific types of meats only, mixing in alcohol consumption, specific supplements, etc. I’m incredibly busy in my life with work right now and having a free premade meal plan plus so much extra cash was too good to pass up. So I decided to continue for the entire 1.5 year study.
Fast forward to now, having finished the entire trial, I am starting to have some serious regrets. I’ve put on nearly 115 pounds since last January and I never expected the results to have me looking like this. Honestly, I think even the researchers themselves were really shocked by my result. My ratio of abdominal girth to height/weight is at the highest percentile of the study, their entire student body, and anyone who has participated in the study before. I gained most all of the weight in my torso, which they are severely attributing to genetics and simply the effectiveness of the tailored diets they had me following.
I obviously look ridiculous now. I haven’t even been able to keep up with buying a new professional wardrobe for work (as you can tell my the pictures and videos linked). I was gaining an average of 7 pounds a month, some months being just 3 pounds and some being an entire 15 pounds in a month. So many things are difficult… I break a sweat going up one flight of stairs, I can hardly put my shoes or socks on, fitting into restaurant booths is nearly impossible, getting in and out of my car or off the couch takes preparation. People stare at me in stores or on the street. I had a homeless guy ask me “Jesus Christ, what the fuck? Are you pregnant, dude?” once. My coworkers are polite but make comments here and there.
I haven’t seen my family since early in the study when the weight gain wasn’t very noticeable. I’m seeing them in 2 weeks for a reunion, and I cannot even imagine what they are going to say. I didn’t tell them I took part in this because I knew they wouldn’t approve, but now I wish I had because how am I going to prepare them or explain to them why I look like this now and how it happened so fast. I’m worried to fit on the plane on the way there and having to travel. I’m so nervous to see them. And honestly would like any genuine opinions of whether or not I’m blowing this out of proportion or if they are genuinely going to be shocked. Maybe I can hide it better if I find the right clothing.
I really regret doing this now for the most part and hope I’m able to start reversing it as soon as possible. Thanks for letting me vent. Happy to also answer any questions on what I learned nutritionally and what the different diets did and how they affected me too.